I heard once that to actually be successful you have to “think of your dream self and start showing up as that.” This month, I’ve decided to do just that and even though the year just started, I already feel happier, healthier mentally and spiritually, and fulfilled.
So I thought I’d write down for you guys exactly what I’ve been doing differently to help you feel confident about the future. Here is my guide to completely change your mindset in 2020 and become happier, healthier, and fulfilled.
Evaluate Your Environment
Today, I was listening to Ed Mylett’s podcast (which is my all time favorite podcast show). He is a motivational speaker, coach, and millionaire who has officially become my life mentor. In his episode (link here), he says that the most influential factor that determines your mindset and outcome, is the people you are surrounded by on a daily basis. So with that said, ask yourself “Do I have a friend who…?
Is constantly talking about the past: If you have a friend that always goes “remember when”, who is always reminiscing and constantly bringing up your past, then ask yourself “does this person support my views for the future or does this person only support my past?, “does this person understand who I want to become or is he or she simply satisfied with what has been so far?”. If you do, try to limit your time with this person and rather invest in people who are present, but mostly who have an appetite for the future.
Keeps you to a standard: Think about the people you clean your house for before they come over. Think about the people you get excited to see or talk to. Those probably are the people who believe so much in you that even hold high standards for yourself. Stick to those!
Who’s an energy sucker: This one is simple. If you have that friend that you simply dread picking up the phone when they call, then evaluate why and perhaps reduce your time around him or her. Those people are draining your energy… and girl, you need to invest that energy properly!
To summarize, do a friend cleanse and reconsider how you want your environment to be like moving forward. Surround yourself with people that bring out the better version of yourself and you’ll see how your conversations and ideas gain more value.
Be Open About Meeting New People
Ok. So before you decide to start cutting all of your friends out of your life and going on a anti-social “me against the world” spiral, I want to remind you that you can’t go through life alone. Yes, a friend cleanse is very much needed for a better and healthier mindset, but please remember to allow yourself to engage with new souls and become inspired by what they do. Stop being so judgy and start being more cordial, you might be surprised along the way.
Believe it or not, people with written goals are 42% more likely to achieve them than people without written goals. I didn’t make this up, I read it somewhere on my Goal Digger Planner so it’s true. As of that moment, I’ve been committed to my schedules, following through and taking immediate action when I don’t.
Seriously, making plans and setting expectations make all the difference in the world. It gives you direction and a clear vision of what your future will be like. Trust me, you don’t want to live in uncertainty or “see how it goes” again, so write them down!
“Goals. There’s no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them. There’s no telling what you can do when you believe in them and there’s no telling what will happen when you act upon them.” - Jim Rohn
Have a Morning Ritual
I told my best friend over dinner the other night the reason I wake up so early. It’s because I like having something more than just work to go to. I like to have a moment of silence and gratitude before I walk into the madness of our everyday life. My ritual consists of very simple yet crucial steps for me:
A glass of water as soon as I wake up to rehydrate
Cleanse and Moisturize
Read my Bible, write my affirmations, and check off yesterday’s to do’s.
Since very recently Yoga at 7am
These moments are so important to me and they set the mood for my day.
I really encourage you to have a moment to get re-energized both physically and spiritually before your day begins. Having a morning ritual is one of the most important things everybody should have for themselves. The most successful people in the world have their morning rituals and so should you! So create one that works for you, it will give you a purpose and a sense of pride.
Entertain Yourself With Knowledge
So, this might sound odd to you but I find it really hard to workout with music, I honestly get bored. I’ve found that during my workouts, I’d rather listen to a podcast like The Ed Mylett Show, it’s way more stimulating and entertaining to me. Discovering this about myself has been life changing because now I actually get really excited about working out and the best part is that I’m learning something new at the same time.
Also, since I began my Masters Degree this past November, I’ve been really into reading articles and podcasts about topics I care about like sustainability and eco-fashion. Through this new knowledge, I’ve been able to give my blog and podcast a whole new meaning.
So my suggestion is, ask yourself what is a topic you’re super interested about currently and invest time to learn about it. It doesn’t have to be a serious topic, it just needs to be one you’re passionate about.
Discover Your Hobby
Hobbies are so important. They help to relieve stress by keeping you engaged in something you enjoy, they take your mind off the stresses of everyday life, and they let you relax and seek pleasure in activities that aren’t associated with work, chores or other responsibilities.
I realized that one of the reasons I was feeling burnt was not having a hobby.
As simple as that.
One time Harold was out playing basketball and I was at home and literally had nothing to do other than work. Painting for example, used to be a hobby, but because of the amount of orders I get, it feels a lot more like work. Another example, my blog used to be a hobby but I chose to make it my full time career so basically, I had nothing that was simply mine.
After this huge realization, I picked up Yoga again and I couldn’t be happier to have something that is just for me..
Meet Yourself Where You Are Now
If you decide to pick up the same hobby like me, treat it as if it were a completely new one. You’ll probably be super rusty and that’s ok. Just remember that you are not the same person you were a few years ago, heck!, you’re not the same person you were yesterday or 5 minutes ago. So be gentle with yourself and don’t compete against your ideal self.
I say this because last year, although I had many successful moments, I also felt as if I should have been doing “more”. I was never completely satisfied with my current situation because I would spend time comparing myself with my ideal self. I was having conversations similar to “I should have XXX by now” and “I should have gotten XXX” and those statements are nothing but an energy sucker and an inspiration cock-blocker, so stop! This mentality consumed me and burnt me out on so many occasions.
That’s why this year I am deciding to meet myself where I am now, whether that’s trying to get back on my fore-arm stand or growing my online community, I’m committed to enjoying every step of the process!